When does no really mean no?

Court: Woman Can't Say No After Start Of Sex

From my point of view, and it's strictly my own, if I consent to sex, start having sex then suddenly decide that I don't want to have sex, 'no' does not mean rape.

In Maryland, a judge has made this exact point. If I could be inside a man's head if something like this occurred, I would imagine that those signals would be pretty damn confusing. 'Yes, honey, lets do it', go through the motions, get all worked up, begin the act and then 'WHAM', 'Oh gee darling, I decided I don't want to have sex now'. But the man says, 'but we're already having sex?'

Talk about control? This would just give women way too much control. Perhaps if it was painful or he was being too damn rough then hell yes but as a consenting adult, going back on my word and then completely using that to cry rape, I just don't hop on board with that logic.

I mean if a woman were done 'using' the man for her own desires and suddenly decided she was done and said no and left the man mid sex, would that allow this woman to cry rape if this guy wanted to finish for himself? I can certainly tell you that if a woman was used in this way that she would feel less than good about herself and feel, well, raped.

Really, come on, the rules of 'no means no' are getting ridiculous. In the beginning, no definately means no and that should really be the end of it. If a woman is going to taunt and tease a guy and lead him on to just that right point and then suddenly say no...well, no does mean no. But I do think that women use that and their manipulative flirtiness to demean a man in this way just so they can taunt them. But again, that is just my opinion.

Some sembelence of control is needed not only by the men but the women as well. Not all men are predators, not all women are innocent, the laws of this country have become so muddled and 'expanded' to suit so many different situations, that they are not simply cut and dry anymore.

Man, do I feel myself getting old and the term old fashioned seems to come to mind more frequently these days. All these changes and acceptions to the laws I grew up with are just way beyond anything I could've ever imagined.

My poor parents, they must really be beside themselves.