Revamp the system

Dad wasn't dad after all, but still owes child support

I see this type of story too much in the media...woman has affair, returns back to marriage, she 'gets' pregnant by her husband and life is great...until the marriage crumbles. DNA tests reveal some unforgiveable results!

The deceit involved in this is coming from all angles because the woman chose to remain silent. Perhaps some women don't really know who the father might be but if one has that question in even the slightest capacity, wouldn't they want to know for the sake of the child? Or for the sake of their own peace of mind?

What if down the line the child needs a blood transfusion as an adult and it's discovered then that the father isn't actually the father? Imagine the emotions of not only the father but the child!

There needs to be something fixed in this society...hubby mentioned DNA testing upon the birth of the child. Good idea to me, at least the men would know then. And down the line they would escape what this man must be going through.

Frankly, I don't really give a damn about the mothers feelings in this situation! The pain she has caused not only her husband by simply HAVING an affair can be overcome or remedied. But to humor the husband and to pretend that he's the father of a baby.

Loving a child that you believe you created out of love is one of the most precious gifts on this planet and it's irreplaceable! For the sake of the child, it would be nice if the man who wasn't the real DNA match would stick it out and love the child unconditionally regardless of how he/she came to be.

But to be scorned once has got to be pretty damn painful...a double whammy that the 'father' must remain so and continue to support a child that isn't his but at the same time is? How can a problem like this be rectified? How can the decision of the court be just when adultery is cause for divorce?

Fathers or in this case, a man who was duped are really given the raw deal a lot of the time! At least that's how I see it. I can only say that I'm grateful, proud and very elated that I know who the father of all 4 of my kids is.