As I said the rumors flying around about this 'terrible' woman who killed this little boy we unbelievable. I was so angry that so many adults were hopping on board and not explaining the safety issues that this boy had ignored, that adults were just so quick to point a finger. It took me a long time to understand that if one doesn't see what truly happened that it's just easier to point the finger at the adult who wronged this poor boy. But I was sure to stand behind this woman with whomever it was that I may have encountered that immediately wanted to cast her to hell.
That included my own sister. I have spoken about a particular family member whom I want nothing to do with. It is my sister who I find to be a very evil person. One who jumps to conclusions before she really knows what the story is.
About 2 weeks after the accident occured and things were settling down with my daughter, I went to run errands. I came home only to find my kids upset and Pat extremely upset. My sister had come to the house about this accident. She had a petition that she wanted Pat and I to sign. A petition for a crosswalk and stoplights in this area where the boy was hit.
Pat being one to be very careful about the things he puts his name on began to ask her questions. You see, this road that the boy was killed on is deemed one of the most dangerous roads in Minnesota with many losing their lives on it. Him and I don't believe that children should be on that road in the walking capacity period. So, my sister proceeded to get heated and Pat began telling her that I was there, that I was one of the key witness' to this accident and that this woman did nothing wrong.
That was the wrong thing for him to say. My sister flew off the handle in my home in front of my kids and started spewing venom. She wanted to know what I was doing there in the first place and said that I didn't know what I had seen and that I was lying. She said that this woman could go to hell and that a busload of children was more accurate in their description than I was. She said that this woman was speeding, that she was talking on her cell phone and that she wasn't paying attention.
Pat defended me and this woman as well as the multitude of adult witness' who had given a statement and a newspaper who had said that this woman did nothing wrong and there would be no charges filed period. My sister would have none of it, she was right, and she knew exactly what she was talking about. She said this woman should fry and that she deserved all the hell that she would have to live with. She even told me that she would feel the same way if it were her own mom or myself that had hit this child.
Ultimately, Pat told her to leave our house and they were calling eachother names and yelling rather loudly as he followed her out the door down to her car.
I cannot bore you all with all of what has transpired with this boy's death but I can tell you this, my family believes that I am a liar, and numerous other rumors that my 'lovely' sister has proceeded to spread about us.
This has caused a lot of friction with my mom and I as my mom believes her. And my own mom has told me that I will go to hell for lying, my other sisters believe her and this is not the first time she has alienated a family member. In the years following this accident, Pat and I have avoided my family. I have not gone to family functions, my sister has chosen to approach our daughters and attempt to say nasty things to them about their father, she had involved our kids as we have really tried to keep the kids out of it. She doesn't want our daughters talking to her son at school and says that if she finds out they are talking she will get a restraining order on our kids. It's really a mess and there is so much that is not being included in this.
Today, we are having a family gathering with my entire family except for one very fortunate brother who will have to miss this event. Lucky guy. Although, it was said to us that this is strictly for my mom and my dad and that is what Pat and I are keeping our focus on we can't help but think that some secretly hope that we will be one big happy family. Both him and I are extremely stressed about this day. As is one other brother whom my sister has done her 'good deeds' on. Him and I have vowed to stick together today and avoid any sort of contact with 'witch' as she was so aptly nicknamed as a child.
With all the arguments that I have had with my mom, all the family members spreading horrible rumors around we feel as though we are setting ourselves up for another round. Stupid but my father is getting old, he isn't able to walk very well, he has blindness in one eye and he simply wants to see his family together again in one room. How could we say no. I adore my dad, I love my mom and feel as though that she has just been caught like a fly in a spider web in all the nastiness that is my 'family'. She is an unsuspecting victim but at the same time should be able to control that.
Lies and deciet. Just makes me want to cry!
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